Posting of a New Year’s resolution brought out all the Negative Nellys, writes Emily Jade.

Emily Jade

Emily Jade

High heels and high chairs

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I’m an optimist, or a Positive Polly as I like to call anyone with a rosy out look on life. And so I found it strange when on the most positive day of the year, my New Year’s resolution came under fire on social media because it was simply that, a resolution.

All the Negative Nellys’ jumped on my feed. Some suggested I should instead lead the charge to ban all resolutions.

With that kind of response you’d think my resolution was something unachievable like a world free from the Kardashians. But no, my resolution was simply to have a crack at doing Yoga for a year. My reasoning was the idea that doing something for my wellbeing and myself would flow through to the whole family. Happy mumma and happy wife = happy life.

Now I may fail, in fact I probably will fail, I know that, you know that, but that’s not what New Year resolutions are about. They are about hope for the future, hope for a better life and hope for a better you. After all, a life without hope is no life at all.

Sure we all tend to break resolutions, but to stop setting goals for ourselves in the first place would be an even more terrible kind of apathy because the beauty of resolutions is that they remind us that we humans are born to try and try again. The challenge of persevering means that sometimes we will actually succeed and lose that extra five kilograms, or quit smoking, or run the Bridge to Brisbane or finish the Masters degree.  Sure it may have been the same resolution you made for the past five years, but the fact that we continue to persevere, to not accept defeat and are undeterred from trying again is the glorious part of being imperfect beings striving for improvement. The wheel didn’t invent itself.

As the late great Nelson Mandela said “There is no passion to be found playing small, in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living”.

So own your resolution be it big or small, achievable or completely audacious, be like my crazy mate Snowy:

I want to put Chico babies on a chicken roll and put every flavour of skittle and coloured M&M in my mouth at the same time. I’m dreaming big in 2014 EJ, I’m dreaming BIG”.

That’s what I’m gonna’ do, I’m going to dream big, and who knows, maybe this time next year I’ll be able to actually touch my toes, and I’ll have Yoga and my New Years Resolution to thank for that.